Category Archives: Growing Up

The Backstory of Child Abuse

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The Backstory of Child Abuse
Verbal Abuse has a lot of kids growing up with los self esteem. Don't be the one it comes from.

Verbal Abuse has a lot of kids growing up with los self esteem. Don’t be the one it comes from!

Ok, it’s been a week and I haven’t said much but some people know where I stand on the issue. I still saw 2 new posts yesterday …. one of a teenaged girl having sex in a classroom with 2/3 boys, a parent grabbing his toddler by the arm and swinging him while beating him to shut him up and now a 4 or 5 year old boy and girl wining on each other. A few months back it was a mother holding a gun to a baby’s head. It makes me sick absolutely SICK!!

SICK! Arrested! What is the reason for this?

SICK! Arrested! What is the reason for this?

Yes I grew up in the age of getting the big ruler on my hands and the thick cowhide leather belt… but it’s getting a little extreme… I hate seeing kids so rude and ill behaved. I think this generation probably just like ours, parents just don’t know what to do anymore. Probably just the wishes of our parents coming true.. “When you have kids you will see how hard it is”

What they see and hear is absorbed into their young minds.

What they see and hear is absorbed into their young minds.

But you have to ask..what is the outcome of what is being done? What is the bigger picture? The big debate today is whether we should beat these kids. I think the debate should encompass a lot deeper issues than the final punishment.. It’s like going to a courtroom and saying she killed the man, throw her in jail and throw away the key, without hearing the back story that he beat her senseless and was coming at her with a gun.. We need to see the back story.. the bigger picture.. and we all have one!

Only pedophiles see children the same as adults!

Only pedophiles see children the same as adults!

All these videos showing up on Facebook of Kids having sex and getting beaten… In normal countries filming this kind of thing is called child pornography and you get locked up for it.. it’s filming children in a lewd conduct or sexual behaviour… I’m actually surprised they are still on Facebook when very similar “nudity” and the likes gets pulled off. Instead of beating these teens. Let them know that it’s child pornography before it happens. Let them know they can talk to you not be afraid of you. Let them know what the criminal justice system is and that it’s a criminal offence. Cyber bullying is a criminal offence… so is this really less bad that they haven’t figured out how to police this yet? Every computer has footprints, they can track this shit!

The 5 year old kids don’t know what they doing.. they think they just dancing.. they are following what they see ADULTS doing.. Who put them up to it should be beaten! Who showed them the example? And when they become teenagers everybody wanna say “give dem licks” when they ignore teachers, spit on people for talking to them, and worse having sex on camera in the classroom? Why didn’t you teach them then what you expect from them as people living among society before they reach this age? I guess that’s what these parents are doing! They teaching them it’s cute to grind on a girl… so that when they become teenagers and their hormones are raging (cause we have all been teenagers) they will know what to do with it. Remember monster’s aren’t born, they are made!

Are you the monster that your child is afraid of?

Are you the monster that your child is afraid of?

I’m tired of people saying I don’t have kids so I don’t know what I talking about. I know that kids have their own mind and no matter how much you try to beat and torture it out of them.. those minds “Absorb” the VIOLENCE they are being taught as well as the SEXUAL BEHAVIOR they are seeing all around them. The definition of Child abuse actually incorporates showing children sexual acts as abuse. People say “it’s just dancing”…Then why is it a problem  when the 12 year old lifts her skirt and does it on a boy’s dick and comes home pregnant. There is appropriate dancing for a certain age! Some people will hear me sounding like parents did for “Dirty Dancing” the original version. I’m not saying ban the music.. I’m just saying the onus falls on the adults.. You have to be the change you want to see in the world.

There was one person who commented that there should be a permit for people to be parents.. am I forced to agree with that? Every man jack feels because they want a baby or they are pregnant that they should be able to mind one. WRONG! In this same breath I want to thank all the people who acknowledge that they would not be capable of taking care of a kid and don’t succumb to societal or family pleas for grandkids. Thank you for not having Kids, you know a child is not a doll.

A child is not a doll

A child is not a doll

I am familiar with the Caribbean and the culture there. I grew up there. This is why I can see that it’s not this generation to blame or the one past. Or the one before that. We can’t go back in the past and change what has been done as much as we would like to. The thing is, we just need to stop blaming now and try to find a solution to the archaic slave mentality that has us in this mess. I think we can be much more creative with punishing bad behaviour. I KNOW kids can be mischievous but they are not EVIL! They only know that they are playing. Why as a mother you don’t want any man hitting you, you don’t want your own mother to come into your house and hit you, but you think it is ok to hit someone less than half your size and strength. They cannot defend themselves.

Stop Child Abuse

Stop Child Abuse

13 Specific Emotions You Suddenly Start Experiencing In Your Mid-20s

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13 Specific Emotions You Suddenly Start Experiencing In Your Mid-20s

Most of these match early-30s too!

Thought Catalog

1. Netflix justification. While your love for watching 17 episodes of a television show in a row hasn’t changed, your feeling of “well otherwise I would be doing homework, and that must be avoided all costs” mentality has . Now, with each episode you watch, you have to go through a whole process of justification/shame-management when you think of all the things you could be doing with your time.

2. Desk-eating depression. At first, there was a bit of a novelty to eating your lunch at your desk, because it meant you were this cool working person, with things like a desk, and a career, and healthy-ish (because your coworkers can see it) lunch. But now, you catch yourself looking down and being overwhelmed with sadness at your leftover chicken pasta salad out of a tupperware and lukewarm Coke Zero. You want to go outside to eat but, eh, it’s…

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Stop Settling

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1536478_3868980859787_769504739_nSpring is here and I have left my job once again. Everyone says “what job are you going to do?” or “normally people have another job before leaving one.” but I am not normal and I don’t want to fall back into the same routine I have been doing. There is a happier way to life and I had it once. I gave it up to get back on my feet and I’m going to get it back.

When I handed in my resignation, it felt like I was stepping off the edge of a cliff. Stepping into the unknown. I had no job set up for me to go to. And I refused to tell my mom that I had just become jobless.

Over the years you lose yourself. You forget what your passion is and where you are supposed to be headed. You get comfortable and lazy and fall in love with the life you are accustomed to. You worry more about everyone else around you than your own happiness or health. I need to stop settling and get back on track.

I have mortgages, student loans and bills to pay, but I was sitting in a

Contemplating...

Contemplating…

low paying job with no benefits and coming home miserable. I took 4 vacations in one year trying to ease my tension. It wasn’t a stressful job. none of the jobs I do ever are but somehow they don’t make me happy. Every now and then I stop to think “Am I searching the impossible dream?” What is this ‘follow your passion’

You have to take in life, you have to just breathe.

Sometimes life throws so many curve balls your way that you don’t know what to do or say and you just have to take the curve ball and sit with it, stare at it and just breathe. Meditate on where you want to be and come up with a plan for how you are going to get there.

But hey It’s only been 4 days since I handed it in. I have some passion hunting to be doing. I will let you know how it’s going.

 

How the Tumbling Began

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535204_10150980462576177_340549706176_12200481_1880767065_nI was born a free spirit trapped in my life! I have no idea exactly where in Boston… I guess I really am a no-wherian. My family and I left Boston when I was a lil over 3 years old, to go to the Caribbean. My father had gotten a job in St. Lucia. I remember clearly playing at the house. I remember the huge backyard and the big roundabout at the front of the house… which really wasn’t that big… turns out I was really little! LOL.

When I was 15 I was sent to boarding school in to finish my high school years and after a year, I left that little town where the boarding school was and moved out on my own to attend college in Ohio. I lived there trying to do my degree peacefully.

Seems normal so far, but somewhere along the way I messed up. And I keep messing up…only thing is that my mess ups always bring me to a new adventure. I get scared because I don’t know what is coming next. I just know I can’t live in a box when there is so much world out there.

Come along as I let you in on my 34 years of adventure that feels like 60. And I’ll fill you in on a few of the secrets that fill in the gaps!